Are You Romantic or Libertine?

From the excerpt " Are You Romantic Or Libertine"by M. Scott Peck. M.D. is actually the excerpt from his best selling book, " The Road Less Traveled". This is a little about the author M.Scott Peck, M.D. he was an American psychiatrist and he was born in New York. The book " The Road Less Traveled" was published in 1987 and the book was very popular because the content and the attribution is based largely on his experiences as a psychiatrist and a person. The excerpt is based on the second section in his book "The Road Less Traveled" that talk more about love and his consider it as a nature love and driving force behind spiritual growth. In the excerpt, it has stated that love is paradox just because most dictionaries do not define love but only describe its symptoms. It did not explain the mix feelings of hatred and resentment that human beings have at the same time. According to the author, since love is hard to define one can only know love by its "symptoms".  which is an intense ambivalence feeling of affection and resentment, with strong longing to be with the beloved object. After that, romance has been defined as a prevailing sense of wonder or mystery surrounding the mutual attract person.   Unfortunately, since love is different of set of thinking and feeling, people need to consort to "something" and the thing is known as "romance ritual" that engaged romantic activity among people. Accordingly, there are two kinds of romance ritual. For the first is obligatory romance where the lover will celebrate the beloved object's birthday, getting her a gift for any special day or acknowledging their anniversary.  Next, optional romance where the lover will try to come out with different kinds of ideas, big or small in order to impress or to assure they are still in the beloved object's good graces such as sending funny greeting cards,candle light dinners weekend gateways and whole lot more.- Critical Literacy (com 2533). Both of them are differ from courtly love which is a relationship that is built on the basis of the unexplained feelings that one has over a person. The person that are practiced in courtly love are known as the romantic and when the person become a romantic person, they will treat their beloved as something that very special and precious and something that very hard to posses. In contrast, the people of the darker side or oppose of courtly love is known as a libertine. This is because they manipulate the romantic code and conduct not because to attain the ideal love but only for their own sheer personal delight. The most famous person that developed the concepts of libertine adventurer and writer the  Giacomo Casanova. For the last, the author want the readers to know weather to being romantic or libertine. After that, people can differentiates the benefits or disadvantages  become a romantic person or libertine. In my point of view, the excerpt is really interesting because it make me thing deeply whether to become a romantic or libertine and what are the outcomes to become like that and the quotations that really capture my attraction is the question" should one put aside his or her personal feeling and put  the beloved object's feeling first?" . what do you think about it..???